Saturday, May 18, 2013

Sharing Warriorship

Shadows will fade.
Light can only be hidden.


As we go through life we tend to gravitate towards people who can relate to us and our current situation.  Like is drawn to like.  We find comfort in people who can relate to us and our own circumstances.  In the good times, we can celebrate the celebration that is this life.  In the hard times, we can form a circle of trust in one another, one that can rarely be broken.  We form warriorships with one another.  Deep embodied friendships that can transcend through our lifetime.

The people that come into our lives are here to teach us about ourselves and the world we have created.  They are never here by accident.  They are perfectly placed in our lives at the most perfect of times.  Even if we don't realize it immediately.  Not all of these relationships end up being long lasting.  Some can be short lived but incredibly profound on our life in an instant.  Others can last a lifetime.

I met my friend Angie in nursing school after a span of a few years of being force to end many of my closest friendships because the consistency of those friendships were exactly the same as my former  marriage; unhealthy, manipulative, and destructive.  My life was surrounded by absolute chaos and I was just trying to keep it all from crashing.  I have always thought of Angie as my Earth Angel.  She came into my life at such a perfect time.  She made me laugh, really laugh for the first time in years.  She was always saying the most off the wall things to get a rise out of the people she was around.  She has such a big heart and a glow about her that you can see it from miles away.  I was so grateful she came into my life when she did.  We found out shortly after graduation she would be moving out of the country.  I was so sad to see her go yet, I realized that this would be my time to spread my wings.  Because of her, I knew that I could laugh again and in just knowing that, I knew I could create a future full of laughter and happiness. Even though she lives on the other side of the world, she still remains one of my closest of friends.

The friendships that I formed in more recent years have been the most healthy and spectacular friendships I have ever known.  It's interesting when you are on the search for healing your own heart how so many people shine out in your life in an instant.  They know the perfect thing to do or say.  We are warriors in life...together.  Everyone deserves to have deep lasting friendships that can hold us up when we feel like we could fall, to tell a joke when we need to laugh, or to have that someone to just sit with us without saying a word because no words need to be said.

After I went through what I would call a total life reconstruction, I reunited with a childhood friend.  This has been such a wonderful gift in my life.  To me it was as if the Universe said you are ready for something really phenomenal and here he is.  After having to end all of my childhood friendships, reconnecting with Mike has been amazing.  There is so much to be said about being able to laugh with someone and say, "hey remember when...?"  As deeply as I love my newer friendships there is something to having a life long history with someone.  Even better yet, we didn't see each other for almost 15 years and were able to pick up right where we left off.  Again, a life changer.

Sharing warriorship is a specialty in life. It is forever cherished, forever needed, it is the very treasure that lays within our hearts.  I would like to thank everyone for sharing warriorship with me.   A giant thank you to everyone who has been a part of the last few years of my life.  Because of all of you, I am able to see the vast richness that resides within my heart.  Because of your love and support, all of my shadows have faded, and now only the light remains.

Who do you share warriorship with?  What does warriorship mean to you in your life?  Share with us, we would love to hear from you!

As always with love,


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1 comment:

  1. I am so thankful that our paths crossed when they did. I can remember every day of clinical with you and those LONG hours spent in lecture ALL summer long. I know I would've been burnt out without you. Knowing you would be there, totally gave me the push I needed to get out the door each morning. I knew I would have some good laughs with you and get to know you even more. I am thankful for you being such a big part of my life. I needed you to push me to study, and I won't ever forget our 5am meetups at Starbucks, or watching the worst teacher ever, fall down in slow motion. hahaha. Thank you for being such a great friend.